Is love supposed to break you?

As I drove into my parent’s driveway I allowed myself to be human and vulnerable. There was no pretending that I was okay, it was time to cry, to scream, to hear my heart crumbling into pieces, and to wait for my parents to say “but Tanya we warned you”. Ubucwebe is fast asleep and

Our light

Today Oluwayemisi and I did not walk out of the maternity ward empty-handed. Two years back we left the hospital with a bag, broken hearts, and an empty stroller. Today Oluwayemisi and I walked out of the maternity ward with smiley faces, hearts filled with gratitude, and the newest member of our family Sbani. I

It’s your time to shine

Dear makoti I see you and I know that it is not easy being a new bride or coming into a new home. I am sorry if some relatives have angered you or made you cry. I know that you do feel lost in a new home and long to go back home and be

Growing old together

Dear Arthur By the time you will be 55 I will be 53. We will be living on our farm. Our orchard will have all the fruits that we want. The kids should be working towards completing their undergraduate degrees. We will have the house to ourselves most of the time. I am sure we

The scar

I watched the Pastor address the multitude and I longed to be one of those people who would go back home and weep in the arms of their spouse. I longed to be here because of uniformity not to be the person that everyone feels sorry for. If my thoughts were not taking part in

The big decision

Hey lovies, your favorite blogger is back. Today marks the beginning of 16 days of activism against gender-based violence. Remember love shouldn’t hurt. Have a restful week❤️❤️❤️❤️ I married Jabulani on a rainy December day surrounded by family and friends. My feet refused to move as I watched my soon-to-be husband smiling and letting a

A book review: Tomorrow I become a woman

Author:Aiwanose OdafenCover rating: 4/5 Overall rating: 5/5Themes: family, love, religion, death marriage, wealth, friendship, gender-based violence, “The damage couldn’t be covered by makeup; the bruises were much too dark and the swellings were much too pronounced no matter how much ice I put on them”. What I learned from the book-Love can be toxic.-There is

A book review: The visit

Author: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Cover rating: 4/5Overall rating: 5/5Themes: family, marriage, masculinity, love, independence, marriage, wealth, friendship “Thirties? You must be joking. A man still without a wife at the age of twenty-eight is like that deflated piece of rubber—useless,” SummaryThe Visit is a story about Eze and Obinna who have been friends since they

The uncalled-for questions series: Why I don’t have a boyfriend

Welcome to the last episode of the uncalled-for questions series. This is the last episode and I am hurt that the series has to come to an end. But I am forever grateful to the six women who chose to share their stories. Dear reader, I do hope that this series taught you something I

The uncalled for questions series: Why are you not getting married?

Welcome to The Baobab. It’s the last week of the series. I hope you have learned a lot of lessons. A big thank you to everyone who took part in the series. I remember being a teenager and wishing I was an adult. Now, I am finally an adult and this phase is hard. No