Days slowly turn into years

24 years ago my mother welcomed her second daughter into the world and the child’s maternal grandmother named her Takudzwanashe which means we have been honoured or exalted by God in Shona. She grew to be a bubbly child and she asked a lot of questions.

There are  a lot of people who have been there for me during my good and bad days. Family and friends who have always believed in me and allowed me to be the best version of myself. My mother has been my pillar of strength and she believed in me when the whole world did not  believe in me. When l was notified that l was in Form 3 Yellow l was disappointed and thought that nothing good or fruitful would ever happen in my life. If my mother was not supportive l would never have passed my exams. My mother’s  letters and her wise words kept me going . Who would have thought that the girl who struggled to write her name in first grade would graduate with a Bachelor’s degree?

My mother taught me how to read and l used to go to the library with her. I guess you have already figured out that l inherited my love for reading from my Mum. My mother never compared me with anyone else and that means a lot to me.

Today is my birthday and l would never have been where l am today if my grandfather wasn’t a part of my life. He taught me to work hard, help others and to always follow my dreams. My grandparent’s marriage is one of the reasons why l believe in true love. My grandfather loved Mai Fadzai up until the time of his death.

My great grandmother is a superhero and  l am grateful to have met her. Although  l was young l remember watching Gogo MaMoyo singing and having church services on her own. This has taught me that being a Christian does not mean going to church every day. The lockdowns imposed due to COVID-19 taught us that we can also practice home worship . My great grandmother’s life was  full of joy and happiness because she was able to make decisions on her own and questioned culture. Lastly, Gogo(grandmother) taught me the power of prayer.

Blogging and podcasting have brought so much joy to my life and I am glad that the dream finally became a reality. I am glad that I have joined the Afrobloggers family and I have met my brothers and sisters who are in different parts of the world. Who would have thought that Takudzwanashe would be able to make decisions on her own, take care of her mental health and take one day at a time?

The woman who named me is a blessing and her prayers sustain me. She is a wonderful mother to her children and she raised her children well. Gogo is kind, hardworking and she her stories are not only fun but inspiration too.

I am grateful to be alive and as l look back l can testify of God’s love and faithfulness. God has been the anchor of my life but, there was a time l lost my faith. I reached my breaking point and l was angry at God. My cheeks have some tear streaks that are only visible in God’s eyes. Hope will always lead the way and l believe that  God’s grace will never let go of my hand.

I am uncertain of what this new year holds but l am certain that God will always watch over me.

Be kind to yourself

It was not an easy battle but you chose to fight.
A fight that killed a part of you.
You were wounded and scared on the battlefield.
You prayed and cried to your Maker each day.
Begging Him to let you float rather than sink.

The tears have stained your heart.
The screaming robbed you of your voice.
Your body carries numerous scars and wounds.
Wounds that you will have to nurse for the rest of your life.
The memory that haunts you up to today

All you want is to be able to sleep well at night.
You want to fall in love with the person you see when you look in the mirror.
To smile and not scream when you see your reflection or shadow.
How you wish to have the courage to use the following phrase without crying.
“I will try again”.

Why did you choose to hurt yourself?
You are a human being and you make mistakes too.
Always remember that you are not perfect.
Do not let that anger and bitterness consume you.

I want you to remember that you are brave.
You are a warrior, a hero and a fighter.
Take baby steps until you get there.
Be your superhero.
Smile and embrace who you are.
You deserve to be happy.
Promise me one thing,
that you will forgive yourself.

We all need that special friend

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Occasionally all you need is someone who can hug you or laugh at one of your lame jokes. Life is seasoned with a lot of disappointments and this is why it is important to have a strong support system. It is important to have someone who will be there for us during the good and bad days. Someone we can trust and someone who loves us unconditionally.

We all need that special friend who is willing to pick up the phone in the middle of the night and to let us vent. You need a friend with whom you will share memories.

I hope that you will find that special friend and if you have already found your special friend never let her or him go.

A book review- Who am l to speak

Author:  Blessing  E Moyo
Cover rating :3
Overall rating:4

Who am l to speak is a poetry collection that discusses the challenges and the struggles that commoners face. The author talks about how the ideas or views of a commoner are ignored whereas the rich always have their way. However for a society to thrive the commoners and the rich should be allowed to voice their opinions.

The poetry book has a poem about how children from the same family can bring so much joy whereas the other has caused many heartbreaks in the parent’s life. Favouritism is normal in many families but parents should never compare their children no matter what.

Parents need to encourage their sons to express their emotions and feelings because it does not make them weak or failures. The past traumas can cause one to be mean. Writing down everything that is happening in one’s life in a journal can be helpful and diary entries have become safe havens for some people.

Who am l to speak is a poetry book that discusses the issues of religion particularly Christianity and different questions to the Maker. The questions include, how one can know if this is a true or fake prophet if they will converse with His or her Maker or have angelic visits like what happened during the biblical times.

This poetry book is informative and entertaining too.

My favourite quote
Always remember, whoever wants to make you happy, loves you. It is a full-time job to love. Love is a sacrifice.

Will l be reading a book from this author?
YES

Do l recommend this book?
YES

You can get the free copy Here

Sending hugs your way this Mother’s Day

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Today is Mother’s Day and a lot of people are celebrating and appreciating the mother figures in their lives. However, Mother’s Day is not a happy day for everyone. I have decided to write this piece and I  hope it will bring comfort and good memories to some people.

There is a mother who is burying her child and the mother believes that she could have spent some more time with her child. Does she wonder if she raised her child well? If she had some more time, she would have corrected her wrongs and created more memories with the fruit of her womb.

Tears have soaked her clothes and nothing will ever heal the heartache. The woman who raised and mothered her is no more and she cannot imagine how she will manage to go through another day without her mother.

A young mother longs to spend time with her child physically rather than watching him grow over a video call. The mother longs to wipe away those tears, hug and allow her son to sit on her lap. Mother’s day has just reminded her that she is mothering her child from afar.

One argument sent her child packing and the poor mother has never seen her child. Every day she prays for her child and hopes that she is safe. The mother longs to meet her child and she wonders if her child will ever forgive her.

When Tumi’s mother passed away her mother’s sisters Mainini (aunt), Maiguru (aunt) and her Tete (father’s sister) raised her. These women did their part to ensure that she always had enough and they shaped her to be the feisty woman she is today.

Lastly, some women fell pregnant but, never got a chance to cuddle or hold their children. The mother longed to watch her child grow, to hold the child’s hands and later hold her in her hearts.

Sending nothing but, hugs and prayers to all the mothers and children who do not look forward to Mother’s Day. This is because it reminds them of what they have lost and the day bruises their wounds.

The Baobab’s review on Going down memory lane series

Hello my lovely readers my apologies for failing to comment on  Going down memory lane series yesterday. I  do not have everything figured out but , l am trying to take a second at a time because right now a day at a time is just too much for me.

A lot of people that were part of the series shared their experiences when the teachers were mean to them and did not allow them to share their side of the story. The system was a bit unfair because some of guests were expelled, failed to attend classes because they had not paid their fees ,got demoted or were not allowed to be part of different subjects because the teachers did not like them. Mass punishment were also unfair and to be honest l hated them. When we were young we made a lot of bad choices and decisions and this resulted in some of the guests being suspended or expelled from school and they were able to learn from their mistakes.

On the brighter side ,most of the guests liked a particular subject because their teachers were kind and had a way of making the subject exciting. Some peers were supportive and were willing to help others too. The sporting field was a happy place for some of the guests since they were allowed to be the best version of themselves. There  a lot of skills that the guests acquired from their high school experiences. Although the experiences were good or bad they molded them to be the people they are today.

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A’s experience

Today is the last day of the series😔 I hate goodbyes, but I have learnt a lot of life lesson’s from the series. If I was to have a conversation with my younger self 😊 I would tell her to BELIEVE IN HERSELF. I will be commenting or reviewing the series tomorrow and if you have heard about the series today you still have time to Catch up😊

🌻How would you rate your high school years out of 10? 7/10


🌻What was the worst thing that happened to you when you were in high school? I was wrongly accused of being in a relationship when I in Form 1 and it was a punishable offence.


🌻What was your favourite subject and why? English, I was good at it and also I liked the teacher.


🌻Who was your role model? No one


🌻What are some of the lessons or skills that you acquired from high school? I became my own hero and pray since we had morning prayers at 04.30am


🌻Did you ever feel like there was a time you were treated unfairly? Sometimes the teachers would punish you without listening to your side of the story.


🌻What was your favourite place at school and why? The volleyball pitch , I enjoyed the sport


🌻If you had the opportunity to change anything from your high school experience what would that be?
Not to try and impress everyone

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A’s experience

🌻How would you rate your high school years out of 10? 8/10


🌻What was the worst thing that happened to you when you were in high school? Not being able to represent my school in FEASA basketball games.


🌻What was your favourite subject and why? Entrepreneurship because it was very practical by then.


🌻Who was your role model? I had many, Kobe Bryant, Paul Kagame and Malala Yousafzai.


🌻Did you ever feel like there was a time you were treated unfairly? Yeah.. when they gave out the conduct marks (8/20) to the whole class and I hadn’t done a thing


🌻What was your favourite place at school and why?
The library and the gymnasium. I loved being alone so the library was a refuge and I loved the gym for basketball.


🌻If you had the opportunity to change anything from your high school experience what would that be?
I’d make many friends

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N’s experience

Happy new month my lovely readers. May this month be filled with laughter,achievements and answered prayers🥰

🌻How would you rate your high school years out of 10? 7/10


🌻What was the worst thing that happened to you when you were in high school? Being expelled from school, it was a frustrating time for me and this is something that was unexpected


🌻What was your favourite subject and why? English, I have always loved the subject.


🌻Who was your role model? No one


🌻What are some of the lessons or skills that you acquired from high school? I managed to improve my writing skills, joined the Debate club and I learnt that we have the power to choose anything we want to be.


🌻Did you ever feel like there was a time you were treated unfairly? No, I felt like I was treated too well compared to others.


🌻What was your favourite place at school and why? The library, it was my happy place


🌻If you had the opportunity to change anything from your high school experience what would that be? I would change the fact that schools chop or expel students
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E’s Experience

🌻How would you rate your high school years out of 10? 9/10


🌻What was the worst thing that happened to you when you were in high school? Being barred from entering the class because I hadn’t paid my school fees.


🌻What was your favourite subject and why? Agriculture, I understood the subject effortlessly.


🌻Who was your role model? My mother


🌻What are some of the lessons or skills that you acquired from high school? Emotinal intelligence, critical thinking, building relationships.


🌻Did you ever feel like there was a time you were treated unfairly? Yes, when I couldn’t go to Zambia for a basketball tournament because I hadn’t paid full fees.


🌻What was your favourite place at school and why? Basketball pitch, because it was my favourite sport, it’s where I made a name for myself and got all the attention.


🌻If you had the opportunity to change anything from your high school experience what would that be? I would be more assertive, speak out whenever I saw that I was being treated unfairly
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