WinterABC2021 Day 17-One thing in your closet  you can’t live without

Welcome to day three of the Culture and Fashion week. In today’s post l asked two of my favourite people to share one thing in their closet they cannot live without. Enjoy!

My boobs have special swinging abilities so a bra keeps them in place. I am a gifted lady so my boobs need a restraint. My clothes fit better with my boobs in place.- P

Jogger pants
It’s one of the things I can wear anywhere well maybe except for an indoor church service. I can wear my jogger pants on a date, when l am going for a jog and even during a lazy day. My jogger pants are the first thing l wear as soon as l get out of my work clothes. Jogger pants are comfortable too.-C

My chitenge or wrap cloth

I don’t know what you call it in your country but l would love to know. My chitenge is a lifesaver and it has numerous functions. Whenever l am travelling l always carry my chitenge because l might end up having to sit in the bus corridor #Zimbusdiaries. On a hot day, l can use my chitenge to cover my body at night. Sometimes when l am struggling to find something to wear l can wrap over my chitenge and look for something to wear in my closet. Before home worship was introduced l always carried my chitenge to church to cover my legs in church just in case l had worn a short dress. Whenever l need to clean the house or sweep the yard and l don’t want to change into a longer dress l prefer wrapping my chitenge over my waist. One last thing a chitenge has a thin material and you can wash it before you take a bath and in less than an hour, it will be dry.-The Baobab

Name one thing in your closet you can’t live without?

WinterABC 2021 Day 16- The Roora Squad

Today’s post is a continuation of yesterday’s post.

The lobola or roora negotiations nowadays are incomplete without the ‘roora squad.’ The roora squad is made up of friends or siblings of the bride and they are there to offer moral support and celebrate with the bride.

I am at that age where a  former classmate, someone’s sister or my senior from high school is getting married. I also follow Zimweddings and rudorwedu on Instagram and I must say, every weekend the cows are surely coming home in Zimbabwe.

Roora squad -Source :Pinterest

There are some challenges that  have been brought by the introduction of the roora squad :

*The roora squad attire can end up being expensive and some friends of the bride might end up dropping out from the squad.
*In some cases there might be a conflict since the bride might choose a tailor that everyone cannot afford.
*It might be a burden to some girls since they have to save money for the hairdo, makeup artist, tailor, the fabric and for a manicure.
*The chosen design for the attire might not suit everyone and some members of the squad will be miserable on the day.
*Some of the clothes might be too short and not appropriate for helping out during the roora day.
*Sometimes when one fails to dress up and have a roora squad because of financial constraints people might make fun of you.
*There is a group of people who only dresses up to upload their photos or social media not because they want to feel good.

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Back then a decent dress, a chitenge or zambia wrapped around the waist was what one had to wear for their lobola day. My question to you my readers, is our culture changing?

WinterABC 2021 Day 15-The roora or lobola day (1)

Welcome to the Culture and Fashion Week

The lobola negotiations bring two families together (the bride’s and the groom’s) and it is also a day of celebration. In some cases the mediator from the groom’s family is given a list of the proposed bride price and the gifts that they should buy for the parents of the bride. Lobola is a token of appreciation to the bride’s family for raising the bride and instilling values and morals in their daughter.

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In some cases, the lobola negotiations have been modernised and it has become a burden to the groom and his family. The bride prices can be overpriced since some families calculate the money they spent on their child from the time their child was born to the present day. The list of groceries can be more than enough to feed students at a boarding school for the whole school term. Lobola negotiations are no longer bringing families together but rather tearing the two families apart. The mediator might have to ask close family members to send money through bank transfers or mobile money. Although the day is for celebration the groom will spend the day calculating the money he owes his family and planning on how he has to pay the money back.

Lobola negotiations have seen the rise of lobola loans and young men who want to get married are now joining lobola stokvels. Back then grain, livestock and a small token were more than enough. But my question to you my readers, is our culture changing?

WinterABC2021 Day 14- 360 Revolution

Happy Friday my readers🤗😊

The first time I was a participant in a  Zoom meeting was during the first COVID-19 lockdown last year. Technology enabled people in different places and different time zones to attend the same meeting.


I found online home worship to be relaxed and I have learnt that conducting church services does not necessarily mean that one has to be in church physically. The YouTube for Mandara SDA Church streams church programs and they even have midweek sermons. One of the things I do not like about online worship is that you will be in your home and you can’t meet with your churchmates physically. But it is better to take care of yourself and your health during the global pandemic.

Zoom meetings enabled organisations to cut on travelling costs and work continued to be done remotely.

During times of crisis and uncertainty, sometimes one needs someone to talk to. The Friendship Bench Zimbabwe offered free online counselling therapy and one had to book an appointment on a mobile number that was provided on the flyer. The introduction of online counselling sessions was a good idea since the lockdown had deprived people of their daily routines.

Online banking and mobile money transfers came to the rescue of many people during the lockdown when banks were closed. Parents received money for groceries from their children. People were able to make payments and order different products in the comfort of their homes.

The general public purchased mobile data to enable them to work from home, attend online classes or binge-watch their favourite series.

‘It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change “-Charles Darwin

WinterABC2021 Day 13- Mrs J and her online business

The Business and technology week has been informative and exciting. Let’s hope you have a few takeaways too. Remember it’s never too late to catch up on reading the blog posts that are taking part in the AfroBloggers Winter challenge. You can use the following hashtag #WinterABC2021

Mrs J is a Christian, lecturer, entrepreneur, a registered sales agent for an online fashion brand, a wife and a mother to four bubbly children. She has shared some  benefits of selling your products online and the lessons she has learnt during her journey.

Fluffy wool hat and booties

-You have a larger clientele base,
-Your products can reach more territories,
-You can provide products for different financial groups

-Courier charges can be expensive for distant clients
-Prospective clients may not have smart phones or data
-Trust issues guarantee for sales

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-Be prayerful and God will direct you to the paying customers and products to develop
-Different cultures have different values
-Aways keep your shop open
-Never give up
-Grow your customer base by listening to clients give them what they ask for.

WinterABC2021 Day 12- A girl’s favourite application

When I was in high school I hated my menstrual period because I had to wake up early and take a bath before the girls in my dormitory woke up. During the day I would be a bit tense because I dreaded standing up with a stained skirt or leaving a stain on my chair. The boys at my school would make fun of the girls who stained their school uniforms and it would dent the girl’s self-esteem.

The first menstrual period of some girls was filled with tears, anger, confusion and humiliation.

Fast forward to my years at university 🤗

*** I don’t remember seeing anyone with a stain on their clothes. Maybe some young women spoiled their clothes but it was less chaotic as compared to my high school experiences.

When I asked some of my WhatsApp contacts to share their secret they were grateful to have discovered the period tracker applications.  How I wish I had discovered the period tracker earlier but, even if l did cellphones were not allowed on the school’s premises. If I tried to mark my menstruation dates in my diary someone would steal it and read all my diary entries.

Source : Play store

The ladies notified me that the period tracker is reliable and convenient.
*It is easy to use.
*It reminds them that their emotions and feelings are valid.
*They can even receive notifications on what time they should hydrate.
*If you are planning on having a baby the calendar will notify you of your less fertile days and your ovulation days.

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My period tracker is one of my best friends and it has made me realize that some of the pain and the wave of emotions that I go through are not imaginary.  I have also noticed the patterns in my menstrual cycle and I am now aware of what l shouldn’t eat during my period. My period tracker has been helpful since the notifications remind me of when my period is due. I can wear comfortable clothes that do not make me feel like I am imprisoned and miserable because it is that time of the month.

Dear woman, smile the period tracker has got you!

WinterABC2021 Day 11-My shopping experiences

We are halfway through the AfroBloggers Winter Challenge and l am proud of every blogger who decided to take part. If you plan on giving up now look at how far you have come and trust me you are doing just fine.

I have met a lot of entrepreneurs and although they sold beautiful products l chose not to buy their products because of several reasons l have decided to share with you today.

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*There are three different prices for the same product depending on the means of the money that you will use. If you have the US$ you will pay a flat fee but if you have the RTGS (Real Time Gross Settlement) it has to be cash since they don’t accept bank transfers. Lastly, if you have mobile money (Ecocash) you will have to pay more. Unfortunately, most of the business owners do have the round figure for their products and if the dress costs $8.20 your change will be in Ecocash.

The entrepreneur might have the cosmetics that you need but the challenge is that they might not be willing to make deliveries.

With the different price ranges depending on the mode of money that you have if the product is a foodstuff or a toiletry l would prefer buying it in a supermarket.

There are a lot of entrepreneurs who are selling peanut butter, surface cleaners or toilet cleaners. The challenge is that they overprice their products and yet their containers or bottles are not the standard ones. It would be wiser for business owners to use standard containers when packaging their products.

Poor communications skills are the reasons why relationships and businesses fail. If someone is offering a service or selling a particular product they should learn to communicate with their prospective customers. When you cannot meet with your customer due to a tight schedule or family commitments it is better to communicate in advance.

WinterABC2021 Day 10- The beauty of Technology

Hello, my lovely readers I hope you had a restful weekend. Time flies when you are having fun, we are already in the third week of the AfroBloggers winter challenge. This week is Business and Technology week sit tight and let’s have some fun.

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When I was in high school during the school holidays I used to write my stories in my notebook. When I went back to boarding school my little sister would tear off the pages or leave the book lying around. I had been procrastinating about creating a blog for some years but when I finally made the bold move I haven’t regretted my decision.

Blogging has introduced me to numerous creatives around the world and I always learn something new after reading different blog posts. Unlike writing your story or paper that can easily be misplaced or get torn my stories and ideas are safer on my blog and anyone who has access to the link of my blog can read my published articles.

Technology has enabled creatives to promote their work on social media and have a huge audience. Authors can now have virtual book launches on Zoom or other platforms with their readers who reside in different parts of the world.

Podcasters can upload episodes on their podcasts and the listeners can multitask while listening to an episode of their choice. One can watch an interview, documentary or a talk show on their favourite YouTube channel.

Musicians can have live concerts and entertain their audience although they cannot meet physically due to the COVID-19 restrictions.

If it wasn’t for technology we wouldn’t be having so much fun now reading blogs posts, listening to episodes on podcasts or watching the vlogs that are taking part in the AfroBloggers Winter Challenge.

Technology has been a blessing in the lives of creatives and I hope some creatives will agree with me😊

WinterABC 2021 Day 9 – Why should we practice self-care (3)?

It is very easy to lose yourself in the process of trying to please your readers, family members or colleagues. Sometimes you need to take a break from your busy lifestyle and get some rest. I hope that you are taking care of the person you see when you look in the mirror.

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It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”- Mandy Hale

Have a restful weekend😊

WinterABC2021 Day 8: My dear friend

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The fun continues and I am advocating for self-care. Are you taking care of yourself? If not you can start doing so today☺❤

It’s okay to :
-have good and bad days.
-express your emotions and feelings.
– be kind to yourself.
– do something that you love.
-smile and laugh more.
– ask for help.
-let go of toxic relationships.
-avoid pleasing everyone.
-to say no.
-to believe in yourself. -to learn something new. -to get some rest.

You deserve to be happy and if anything costs your happiness then it is too expensive.

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