Minding your own business

I decided to cut my hair last year in August . When I was in high school I used to visit the barbershop a few days before schools reopened, this is because I had to abide by the school rules. Although I had previously trimmed my hair, it had never crossed my mind that I could have a bald head one day.

I really loved the girl I saw when I looked in the mirror but, the long hair didn’t fit in the picture anymore. 2020 was a difficult year for me because I had to let go of some toxic relationships and having a few sessions with the counsellor.I am grateful for the lessons I have learnt along the way. It was a indeed a great feeling being able to make decisions on my own.

The girl with the long hair

When I looked mirror I watched chunks of my hair falling on the floor. It seemed like I had conquered the world and with Baby Face’s Standing Ovation being played in the background I did not doubt the decision I had made. The adventurous child in me even believed that I was a super hero .

When I finally uploaded my new look on my WhatsApp status, one of my contacts shouted at me. Some of the comments included “who broke your heart ?”, wakagererei (why did you cut your hair ?” Some people simply want to be shareholders in our lives and force their way in matters that do not concern them.

The journey has taught me that as human beings we are quick to judge and make conclusions on our own. Some of my friends concluded that I was broke and this is why I decided to cut my own hair. If only they knew that my mother always offered to plait my hair into beautiful African threadings and that I could visit my hairdresser too. One of my WhatsApp contacts even said that I was selfish and inconsiderate because I had decided to cut my hair. Was I selfish for choosing to cut my own hair ?

I learnt that sometimes we should mind our own business and not make conclusions on our own. If some of my contacts had asked me about the reason why I chose to cut my own hair I would have gladly told them the reason why I did so.

How do we react when a member from our community files for a divorce and decides to live with her parents? I hope you do not gossip or ask her why she chose to divorce her partner when she seemed happy.

X can gain weight whereas R loses weight. Have you ever considered that these  two individuals can actually be sick ,happy or depressed?

I don’t think that I will be plaiting my hair anytime soon. I really enjoyed going the barbershop from October-December. This was a phase I had to go through and I do not have any regrets.

It is important for us to not make conclusions on our own. Whenever I struggle to mind my own business I always read this verse from my Bible. “Aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your own hands, as we instructed you” -1 Thessalonians 4:11😉

Published by tcndangana

The girl with an overactive imagination

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